This is an excellent article that articulates some of which I am trying to say through this site.
I’m also very pleased to see that the White House is taking a firm stance against sexual assault and promoting the importance of bystander response.
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Simply put, this is perpetrator logic. Perpetrator logic says that the person impacted doesn’t get to say whether something was traumatic. The only opinions that matter are those of the perpetrator and those who defend their actions by writing off some violence as “lesser” than others.
Perpetrator logic claims that rates of sexual violence are exaggerated by feminists who define the term too broadly. After all, defining “rape” so broadly might actually mean that I’m a perpetrator of violence, even if it didn’t look like what I picture a rapist to be.
The impact of perpetrator logic, then, is the silencing of survivors. When you know people won’t believe you or give you the public and private support you need to heal, you’re far less likely to share your experience, even with loved ones.
When you’ll be shamed and questioned, you are far less likely to speak out publicly about sexual violence.
And when you know you’ll be treated like you’re the one who did something wrong within the legal system, you are far less likely to report to the police. And some wonder why rates of reporting are so low!
Collectively, we need to move away from perpetrator logic. We need to move away from that logic which attempts to define for survivors what their experience was, and we need to empower more survivors to find the healing they need.
Here are four important things we need to do in order to abandon perpetrator logic…
1. Understand That Sexual Violence Is a Matrix of Behaviors…
2. Empower Survivors to Name Their Experience…
3. Recognize That Healing is a Spiral…
4. Embrace Survivor-Centered Logic…
Read full article for more great information and detailed explanations of those four things.
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